Love

Boundaries Bring Freedom…

Boundaries Bring Freedom…

There was a time when I thought all activities needed to be a group project. You know what I mean – Lary and I do them together. Ahh, the bliss of couple life. What I began to realize is that when one of us doesn’t really want to participate, the bliss can become misery for all involved. Law four and five should have been utilized and we would have all been happier. We’ve been discussing…

The Foreign Language of Growth

The Foreign Language of Growth

“Carmen, you have the opportunity to help Lary be a better man.” When Gil, our counselor, spoke those words it almost seemed like he was speaking in a foreign language. We married when I was only sixteen years old. He, twenty. By the time Gil said that, our marriage had long established behaviors (ruts). The concept that I should do anything that might make Lary uncomfortable or upset (on purpose) seemed ridiculous. I saved those…

Because Drawing Lines in Chalk Seems Easier

  “A person without self-control is like a house with its doors and windows knocked out.” Proverbs 25:28, MSG I can be over sensitive to Lary’s emotions. I read his body language like I am studying for a final. He told me once to stop reading something into every facial expression. I told him if he didn’t like me reading his body language then stop talking so loud. Now reading them might not be so unhealthy…

When It Doesn’t Come How We Expected

When It Doesn’t Come How We Expected

When Jesus rode in on that colt, he brought with Him hope. The sounds must have been deafening. Hosanna! King of Israel! Palm branches waving, cloaks covering the ground as a welcome mat to their new King. Victory! The symbolism was not lost on anyone. Especially not Jesus. What they had not witnessed with their own eyes, the people had heard from others. News, especially this kind of news, spread quickly. Maybe their loved one…